I live only a few miles from Mom, but I travel occasionally and that gives me a taste for what it would feel like if I lived thousands of miles away instead of just a few. That distance makes the need for a reliable safety net even clearer. Fortunately, there are simple steps we can take to stay connected and make sure our loved ones are supported even when we can’t be there in person.
1. Meet the neighbors.
Neighbors are often the first line of support. Introduce yourself and exchange phone numbers with those living close by. A trusted neighbor can keep an eye out, help with small tasks, and even stop in if needed.
2. Have local friends on call.
If your parent has long-time friends in the area, ask if they’d be willing to check in occasionally. Having one or two “go-to” people nearby provides reassurance for both you and your loved one.
3. Use check-in services.
Technology can help bridge the distance. Daily check-in calls or wellness services create consistency, provide companionship, and alert you quickly if something is wrong. These small touches make a big difference.
4. Share the plan.
Make sure everyone in the circle — family, neighbors, and friends — knows who to contact in an emergency. Clarity prevents delays when time matters most.
Creating a safety net doesn’t mean hovering or taking away independence. It means surrounding our parents with layers of connection and care, so they can continue living life on their own terms — and we can feel peace of mind, even from the other side of the country.